'Coming out' to your parents

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The reason I say 'coming out' is because someday I hope the phrase 'coming out' no longer has to be used. People who are in the LGBT Community should be allowed to be themselves and not have to make such declarations. We are not diseased animals.

Consider the timing. If you’re going to spill the beans at Thanksgiving, do it after dinner, not before or while you’re passing the cranberry sauce. Someone’s gone to a lot of trouble to cook this meal, so first enjoy the turkey, and then raise the topic at the appropriate time.

The problem with this is the timing will never be perfect. You could plan out how you’re going to do the whole ‘coming out’ process but the results will never be the way you anticipate because well ‘shit’ happens and that’s life. I will use my example of ‘coming out’. I was in high school and I got caught looking at gay porn on the computer. My dad asked me why I was looking at these photos and well, I had to ‘come out’ to my parents. It wasn’t ‘planned’ and it wasn’t ‘great timing’ but it forced me to face my fears and stand up strong as a person.

Determine whether this is the right time. Do you still live under your parents’ roof or rely on them to cover expenses such as your education, clothes, car payments, gas money or insurance? If you think they’ll be reasonable in their reaction to the news, then go for it, but if you think they might try to use this in some way as leverage against you (for example, restricting who you can see or even perhaps cutting you off financially), then waiting until you’re no longer dependent on your parents might be a better time to come out to them.

Again, there is never a ‘right time’ to ‘come out’ to your parents. I do agree though, that if you know your parents are going to cut you off financially that you should wait until you are fully independent to do so. I however, encourage everyone that fears ‘coming out’ to face your fears head on. It’s a very liberating feeling to ‘come out’ and shouldn’t be feared because you can’t change who you are and shouldn’t if you aren’t harming others or detrimental to society.

Be in a good place in your life. Be comfortable and confident with who you are. I came out to my parents after I had learned that my boyfriend of 18 months was cheating on me with another friend of mine. I was heartbroken and tired of living a lie, so I made the mistake of choosing that moment to come clean. Do not spill your guts when they are already tied up in knots. Showing your parents how miserable you feel at the moment is only going to reinforce their imagined fears that you’ll end up living a sad and lonely life.

I’m going to use my ‘coming out’ a lot but it’s a little bit of proof that not everyone will have the same ‘circumstances’. I certainly wasn’t ready to ‘come out’ and I knew in my guts that if I lied to my parents about looking at ‘porn’ that was primarily men on men that the results wouldn’t be good either way. It forced me to face my fears even though it took my parents a while to ‘accept it’ but they eventually came around. The whole stigma of ‘coming out’ isn’t easy and it won’t be. I understand that it’s good to come out when you’re confident in yourself and are in a ‘good place’ but we all won’t have those circumstances and being able to face reality whether good or bad is proof how of strong of a person you are.

It’s your parent’s job to worry about your wellbeing. They will be worried about you whether you are gay or straight. It’s the rest of the world out there that makes it hard to be yourself if they don’t ‘understand’ it. No one chooses who they are attracted to and it shouldn’t be treated as such.

Be realistic and anticipate what their reactions will be. Parents can sometimes surprise you and may not have any issues at all. They may even embrace you for being honest with them. But if they are socially conservative and proud members of Pat Robertson’s 700 Club, don’t expect them to trade in their membership card for a PFLAG T-shirt anytime soon. Be prepared with what you’re going to say and how you’re going to respond to their reactions.

I’m going to answer this as if I am a parent and my child was ‘coming out’ to me. It’s hard ‘coming out’ to your parents and I understand the fear of rejection and the lack of acceptance, but as I stated earlier I’m going to answer this as a parent. I would feel like a complete and utter failure as a parent if I didn’t accept my child for who they are, if they aren’t harming other people or being a detriment to society. I personally would embrace this with my child and continue loving my child. It saddens me that there are parents who feel that they have to disown their child because they ‘come out’ as gay, lesbian or bisexual. You don’t choose your sexual orientation and you shouldn’t treat someone as if they did.

Arm yourself with answers ahead of time. There isn’t a concern that your parents could voice that hasn’t already been discussed in dozens of articles and blogs online. You’ll find some great suggestions on how to phrase your answers that will make you sound like Einstein. You know your parents better than almost anyone else, and if you anticipate their concerns, you can be ready with some answers that will be hard for them to dispute.

It’s already hard as it is to ‘come out’ to your parent, let alone sit there and be drilled about why you’re attracted to the same-sex. The answer is no one knows why they’re attracted to the same-sex and it certainly shouldn’t be treated as such. You don’t see ‘straight’ kids ‘coming out’ to their parent as ‘straight’ and their parents asking them a million questions about their heterosexuality, the same should apply here. I understand questions will rise but not in the moment of your child ‘coming out’. It should be their moment and what they need the most is their parents to be supportive and loving.

Be ready for the “hellfire and damnation” argument. If your parents are nonreligious, skip to #7. But if they’re anything like my parents were, read on. You probably aren’t going to win this argument in the first conversation, but you can avoid losing it. Educate yourself with some basic answers to what you know will be their main arguments. They may not comprehend what you’re saying or even agree with you if they do, but at least they’ll know you have given this a lot of thought, and you’ll know how to respond to them in later conversations.

I’m going to show you how to win this argument.

'Homosexual marriages will lead to other unnatural unions.'

Object sexuality does exist and there are tons of people married to landmarks, inanimate objects and including themselves. Polygamy does exist as well. Please don't tell me that your marriage is will be ruined when there are couples who get divorced right after getting married and having the whole marriage annulled like it never happened. It's one thing to want to protect your ideals on marriage and it's another to infringe on the rights of others who have no direct correlation to your life. Gay people deserve the right to be married like everyone else. Marriage is a human right. Bestiality will never be accepted because it is not two consenting adults and to say that this is your way of justifying your hate of others who aren't harming people really shows your ignorance on the subject.

(Side note: I wouldn’t call your parent ignorant no matter mad they make you on the whole topic. But in the general sense of arguing for arguing, this is a strong argument to use.)

‘I think that gay marriage should be between a man and a woman.’

There are many people who feel the same way and that’s fine. You are entitled to your opinion but sometimes your opinion is best kept to yourself. Two men or two women whom love each other shouldn’t have to live their life the way you want them. Love cannot be dictated. Your marriage ideals should be kept to yourself and not forced onto others.

(Side note: Your parents may not fully understand the whole being gay thing but the last thing you want to do is insult them about it. This is generally used as some form of basis in case you do have to defend yourself.)

‘Marriage equality is a threat to the nation’s survival long run.’

What you are saying is; allowing gay marriage means that everyone will turn gay and no one will be having children? Because we all know if you’re looking at the bible for morale you want to revert to the dark ages when man is robot and woman is baby factory. Marriage is a basic human right and I can’t believe that even after the ruling to allow same-sex marriage in all fifty states people somehow think they have to marry someone of the same sex. What are you secretly gay? You can’t convert someone’s sexuality unless you’ve been holding feelings towards the same sex inside.

(Side note: This will be a common argument religious parents will use against you. I wouldn’t call your parent gay themselves for not being accepting, but the rest of the argument is pretty straight forward.)

'Homosexuality does not offer the stability of a traditional family.'

Do you have any proof of this? I've seen many same-sex couples with children and the children are happy and grow up like every other child. Just because it takes man and a woman can create a child doesn't mean they have what it takes to raise that child. Science even proves that a child can be raised by a single parent or even by a same-sex couple and grow up just like every other child. Denying a child the chance to have a loving and supportive family because it doesn't follow within your guidelines of what a family should be is just plain cruel.

'Homosexuals have a higher incidence of infidelity.'

And heterosexual couples are just the poster children of what a real marriage should be right? Wrong! They are heterosexual couples who are in open marriages there are heterosexual couples that cheat as well. Get off your high horse and use some common sense! You put heterosexuality on a silver platter like it goes with no flaws when in reality there many flaws, especially those who use their bible to try and make themselves look better than they are.

'Homosexuals have a shortened lifespan.'

Do you have any proof of to back such a radical claim? No I don't think you do and you can't use AIDS/HIV because it isn't something only gay people get. Heterosexual couples can spread it too you know, this is why they say always wear protection. Your bible is the reason why so many gay people have short lifespan because it tells you to stone people to death for being gay!! It's your bible that leads to people of the LGBT community to taking their own lives because some people rather be dead than to be who they are. It's sad that as a society if you are in the LBGT community you are frowned upon for something you can't control. You can control being an asshole and this statement further proves that!

'Homosexuals have a much higher incidence of domestic violence.'

Again where is the proof? Your bible surely doesn't say you shouldn't beat your wife. In fact there are tons of religions that say that it is okay to beat your wife if she doesn't submit to your sexually or if she doesn't do what you tell her to. There are heterosexual couples who exhibit domestic violence and often display it in front of their children and it has a negative impact on them because they see this and think that it is perfectly okay to do when they are older and in a relationship with someone. Domestic violence is not okay in anyway shape or form, but to blame this on same-sex couples and say they are most likely to exhibit this is just down right cruel. You really do have your information completely obscured and just want to make your religion and bible look so much more better than it really is.

'Homosexuals have a much higher rate of molestation than heterosexuals.'

This statement really does make me angry because it is completely and utterly untrue. Just because someone is gay doesn't mean that they want to molest children! I've seen so many heterosexuals exhibit molestation and even in the bible men were allowed to take young virgin girls as their wives and they had to submit to them sexually. Please do tell me how only gay people molest children and heterosexuals don't do any of the such. Yes you really are delusional aren't you?

'Homosexuality is not condoned in the bible.'

You can't eat shellfish. You can't mix fabrics. You can't trim your beard. You must honor Sabbath Day. You can't commit adultery. You can't go to a fortune teller. You can't eat pork. Shall I say more? We all know that you can't get your morale from the bible it isn't a good source of that. Otherwise we'd stoning people to death and reverting back to the dark ages. Jesus never preached against gay marriage!

'Homosexuals want to redefine marriage, changing the uniqueness of heterosexual marriage.'

If you believe marriage should be between one man and one woman that's fine! No one is trying to take your opinion away from you, however when your opinion infringes on the rights of other people then it becomes a problem. Why do you care so much that two men or two women are getting married? You don't have to get married to someone of the same-sex unless you are hoarding feelings for someone of the same-sex.

'Homosexual marriages will lead to other unnatural unions.'

Object sexuality does exist and there are tons of people married to landmarks, inanimate objects and including themselves. Polygamy does exist as well. Please don't tell me that your marriage is will be ruined when there are couples who get divorced right after getting married and having the whole marriage annulled like it never happened. It's one thing to want to protect your ideals on marriage and it's another to infringe on the rights of others who have no direct correlation to your life. Gay people deserve the right to be married like everyone else. Marriage is a human right. Bestiality will never be accepted because it is not two consenting adults and to say that this is your way of justifying your hate of others who aren't harming people really shows your ignorance on the subject.

Stay calm, even if your parents aren’t. You might have someone like Sally Field for a mother — her reaction to her son being gay was, “So the f*#% what?!” — but if your parents are more like mine, be ready for them to get angry, melodramatic and downright cruel. Don’t join in. Keep your cool and be the rational adult in this encounter.

You have to stand your ground even if it is against your parents. You didn’t choose to be gay and it shouldn’t be treated as such. The reason I listed the arguments above was to be used as some sort of educational value to display how ridiculous these arguments can be when trying to dictate someone’s life. It’s one thing if you are going around murdering people, raping people or physically harming others. We cannot live in a society where people are going around harming others, you will be deemed a detriment and should be locked away or given the help you need (mental health is a real issue that shouldn’t be ignored.)

Secondly, it’s human nature to get defensive when you feel you are being attacked; even if it is your parents. Let’s say the conversation gets heated. The best thing you can do is walk away and talk when emotions are running high, you will say something you’ll regret and vice versa. Yes the bible will be used and yes they will try to manipulate you to be something you’re not, all you can do is stand your ground and use the arguments listed in the previous question in the most non-insulting way possible.

Their approval or permission is not required. Don’t expect too much from your parents right away. It’s taken them a lifetime to believe what they believe, and that’s not going to change in one conversation, and maybe not even in 100 conversations, so try not to measure the success or failure of your first coming out conversation by their initial response. If it’s not what you had hoped for, don’t despair and don’t give up. Give them time, but do not give them the impression that you’re asking for their approval or permission. This isn’t about them. It’s about you and who you truly are. Show them that you are the same person they’ve always loved, just more honest now.

I’ll keep this one short. The best thing you can do is ‘come out’ and if it goes well, progress from there. If it doesn’t, keep being yourself and eventually they will come around. Some people have a hard time understanding the whole ‘gay’ thing because it’s been such a taboo topic when they were growing up.

Know when and how to make your exit. When I came out to my parents, there was a lot of anger and drama, and I was hurt that they weren’t welcoming this news with open arms. So I took the old “frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn” approach and stormed out. Thought it felt pretty good, it wasn’t very effective. You might consider a less dramatic exit line. It’s important to be sensitive to what they may be feeling and put yourself in their shoes. Their concerns may be all over the map, from, “Will we ever have grandchildren?” to, “Please, God, don’t let my son get AIDS.” Whatever happens, try to leave the door open, even if you or your parents feel like shutting it.

(Again)

Do you have any proof of to back such a radical claim? No I don't think you do and you can't use AIDS/HIV because it isn't something only gay people get. Heterosexual couples can spread it too you know, this is why they say always wear protection. Your bible is the reason why so many gay people have short lifespan because it tells you to stone people to death for being gay!! It's your bible that leads to people of the LGBT community to taking their own lives because some people rather be dead than to be who they are. It's sad that as a society if you are in the LBGT community you are frowned upon for something you can't control. You can control being an asshole and this statement further proves that!

Homophobia in Hip/Hop (Part one)

This is a response to Bizzle 'Same Love (A Response)' I don't own the rights to this song, lyrics or its content.

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 But understand this, that in the last days
There will come times of difficulty

• How many times have people tried to predict the end of the world? Yes there have been so many of them and they all have been completely and utterly wrong. Secondly, can we please stop with this ‘last days’ crap? I mean Jesus isn’t going to fly down from the sky and there isn’t going to be a rapture. (I wish the rapture did happen so all you arrogant Christians can be taken away to heaven and everyone else can live happily on earth.) Yes there will be times of difficulty but those times are mostly by those who keep throwing their religion down other people’s throats who don’t want to believe your nonsense!

For people will be lovers of self

Lovers of money, proud, arrogant
Abusive, disobedient to their parents
Ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable
Slanderous, without self-control, brutal
Not loving good, treacherous, reckless
Swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God
Having the appearance of godliness
But denying its power
Woe to he who calls evil good and good evil

• I will basically sum up this verse. People who don’t believe in god or don’t love god are all of these awful things. Slanderous without self-control? The things you’ve said in this verse is pretty slanderous. I mean aren’t you supposed to be a religion of love and tolerance? There is none of that displayed here. It’s all vicious and very insulting not sure I want to worship a god like that.

It's funny how the media portrays things
They really pushing hard for this gay thing
And it's so wicked how they manipulate things
Can't even disagree without them making it a hate thing
I say you wrong, and you holla "hate" instantly
But you say we the ones who don't tolerate differences

·         Okay, there is a difference between being tolerant and being an asshole. You are entitled to your opinion and you can wear that opinion on your sleeve. The moment you try to enforce that opinion onto other people is when it becomes a problem. The sad part about it is that you don’t see this as a problem. You can disagree with someone but that doesn’t give you the right to openly discriminate against them. You are being hateful! The media isn’t pushing a ‘gay agenda’ and you really need to get off your high horse.

There's a whole lot of things I could say really
But, see your hypocrisy is something I could paint vividly
Saying it's the way you was born

·        It’s been proven by science that you are born with your sexual orientation. No one chooses to be ‘gay’ or ‘straight’. Please stop with this notion that you can just at a whim choose who you are attracted to.

And I'm sure, that you lust just like I do, just in a different form
But I'm married, so if I give into mine, I'm a cheater
If you give into yours, you just fight to make it legal
You rather fight God, then fight sin

·         Okay let me get this straight. You are comparing lust to being gay? How in the world did you even come to that conclusion? ‘Lust’ and being attracted to someone are two totally different things. My attraction to other men isn’t lust it’s what I am attracted to physically and sexually. The same can be said about your attraction to women. I don’t understand how or why you have to make it seem like the only way you can feel love or experience love is to believe in god?  If anything your god is the complete opposite of what love is.

The Bible is alright, until it calls what you like sin

And I feel so disrespected that you were so desperate
You would compare your sexual habits to my skin

·         I really don’t understand this one at all. You didn’t choose your skin color and you didn’t choose the ethnicity. Those in the LGBT Community didn’t choose their sexual orientation and yet it’s okay to discriminate against them? That makes so much sense right! 

Calling it the new black

Tell me where they do that?
They hung us like tree ornaments, where were you at?
They burned us for entertainment, you go through that?

·         No one is comparing being gay the ‘new black’, unless you look at the amount of hatred that the LGBT Community endures. There are still countries that punish those of the LGBT with the death penalty. If two men walk down the street holding hands they are immediately ridiculed and every bigoted person wants to shame them and tell them to keep that in the privacy of their home. People have been beaten up and killed, some even driven to suicide. It’s not a pretty picture either way but this endless hatred towards a community that wants to live their lives like everyone else has to stop!

Mom's raped in front of they kids, while they shoot dad

Ever been murdered just for trying to learn how to read bro?
Show of hands?
I ain't think so

·         How about in the bible where people who were gay were stoned to death? How about the countless of people who have been ridiculed and driven to the point of suicide? How about how they treat gay people in Saudi Arabia? They execute them by throwing off a tower. Yes gay people are being murdered for being who they are!

So quit comparing the two, it ain't the same fight

You can play straight, we can never play white
Using black people as pawns for yo' agenda

·         Yes you are right these two fights aren’t exactly the same. But what makes them both common and why it’s possibly being brought up is that both were seeking similar goals, equality! During the Civil Rights Movement many have fought to get service and be treated like human beings. The LGBT Movement is the same thing, to be treated like everyone else. We have to pay taxes like everyone else so we should have the same rights and benefits as everyone else. There’s no agenda, just people wanting to live their lives and not be discriminated against. I don’t understand what you don’t get. 

And these sell out rappers will do whatever you tell 'em

Skirts on stages, campaigning for that black vote
Afraid to be blackballed, so they play that role

·         Clothes don’t have a gender, and it’s utterly pointless to try to validate that. If you want to wear a dress then wear a fucking dress. It’s not hard and it’s really none of your business if someone decides to do so. Blackballing is a rejection in a traditional form of secret ballot, where a white ball or ballot constitutes a vote in support and a black ball signifies opposition. Not sure what this has to do with anything or the fact that these skirt wearing rappers fear rejection from anyone for not wearing a skirt. I want to say this is all made up? Besides gender bending fashion is starting to gain traction and there’s nothing wrong with it.

You were never oppressed, the devil was a liar

The only thing oppressed was yo' sexual desire
Keeping yo' desires oppressed is so lame to you
But when you get married, that's what you expect yo' mate to do

·         Denying marriage equality and basic human rights was the just lie the devil spewed out? We aren’t putting this on the people who actually enforced the discriminatory laws. We’re putting this on the devil? Religion does oppress you sexually by saying that having urges that makes you human are wrong. Having sexual desires between you and your partner is the right thing to do or with anyone who reciprocates those urges back. I mean it’s not hard at all. Secondly yes you would expect the person you are dating or married to would want to have sex with you; otherwise what’s the point of being in a committed relationship or being married if you aren’t satisfied sexually with that person?

It angers you if I compare you to a pedophile

Cause he sick, right?
And you're better how?
(Man, I ain't choose this)
You think he chose that?
(But I was born this)
Well prove he wasn't born that
But you were never a girl
He was once nine, so at one time in his life it was just fine

·         You’re comparing pedophilia to people being gay? I don’t get where you’re going with this at all. Two people (consenting adults at that) in a loving relationship, compared to someone that messes with children. I’m not seeing how the two even correlates with each other.

What makes your laws right?

I'm not buying it
So put 'em in that same trash can you threw that bible in
See how that cycle is?

·         I am so over people using their religion as a weapon to discriminate against other people. Especially if those people did nothing to be discriminated against. You can have your religion and your god but please stop with this nonsense! I don’t agree fine. You don’t agree fine. Can we please just move the fuck on and let people live their lives peacefully.

Nobody wants to repent of they evil

So we all try justifying it
And you say it's about rights, but you lying though

·         It is about having equal rights! It’s also about two people wanting to be in a loving relationship and be left the fuck alone. There’s no reason someone needs to repent or should be called evil if all they are doing is trying to live their life with the person they love and care about.

Domestic partnerships gave you rights a long time ago

God created marriage, when he did, he defined it though
So why is it you want what He created, but deny Him though?

·         First of all god didn’t create marriage we did. We can redefine marriage to include both ‘straight’ and ‘gay’ people. It is unconstitutional to deny basic human rights to anyone on the grounds of religion and it is also against the law to discriminate against anyone who doesn’t deserve it. You cannot use your god as a means to justify your hate and at this point it’s clear that you are set in your own mindset. Sad really.  

It's not wicked enough, switching the definition?

You want it done by a Christian in a church he worships in?

·         There are Gay Christians who want to be married in church also. Why can’t these people get married in a church if that’s what they choose? Government funded institutes cannot deny people a service. Yes, if that pastor feels that he can’t do his job then let someone else perform that job. It is not your place to stick your nose in other people business. It is not wicked and it is not switching definitions, it is simply allowing two people who love each other (who so happen to be of the same-sex) the same rights as everyone else. I feel like a broken record here.

And that rainbow you using as a gay pride symbol

It represents a covenant with God if you didn't know
Check Genesis 9:13 for the info

·         The same rainbow represents something very horrifying? You remember that flood when god killed every living thing on earth? Yeah, god created a rainbow in the aftermath of the horrific flood. Yes because nothing says love better than a rainbow that occurred after a mass genocide killing every living thing on the face of the earth. That’s what people want to remember when they see a rainbow, not two people in a loving relationship but genocide! Got it!

Homie, the war is spiritual, you don't know what you in for
I ain't sayin' yo' sin's worse, but it is sin though

·         Sin isn’t real. It’s just a manmade concept used to control people.

The Lord took the punishment for it all on Him though
We just gotta repent though

·         Your god created this fucked up world and knew it would be fucked up, and instead of fixing it before it became fucked up he let it happen. I don’t care if you worship whatever god you choose but don’t you dare tell me I should worship a god that does the things he’s done. Your god if anything needs to repent for how fucked up humanity is and sending a scapegoat (Jesus) doesn’t count either. It’s completely stupid to be honest.

The problem is if you don't call it sin

Then you walk as if there's nothing to repent for

·         The problem is that it is not sin! Sin does not exist!!! Secondly, you are trying to shame people for being attracted to the same-sex and that is wrong. It’s one thing if it was a child then yes that is wrong and the law protects the child. However, two consenting adults wanting to be in a loving relationship and be treated like everyone else isn’t a sin and shouldn’t even be a question. Basic human rights!

Let's recap:

We all wicked and desire sin
But imagine a world where no one kept there desires in
If something was called right, simply cause we desired it
When yo' right goes against my right, who's right would win

·         SIN DOESN’T EXIST!!! Now that we’ve got that out of the way. Are you referring to gay people just wanting to live their lives normally? Like I’ve said before that really isn’t a sin at all. I can imagine a world where people lived their lives peacefully and differences in opinion wasn’t meat with hatred and disgust. You can wear your opinion but the moment you enforce that onto other people, that’s when it becomes a problem.

As for being born that way

I should never see ya'll
Ever see use a word like retard
To describe someone who was born a little differently than we are
I guess down syndrome really isn't a thing ya'll
What do we call yo' syndrome?

·         Do you know what Down syndrome is? Well let me explain, someone who has Down syndrome was born with an extra chromosome. How the fuck can you compare that to being gay? Being gay is not an illness and shouldn’t be treated as such!

Oh, that term is offensive now when it hits home?

So what gives you the right to call the way he was born a defect?
I call yours a defect, you feel it's disrespect

·         You are being disrespectful! People with Down syndrome didn’t choose to have it. Just like gay people didn’t choose to be gay! What don’t you understand?! This is awful!

You don't believe in God?

Hey, the universe says if we all gay
We either die off or have to do it God's way
And God loves you no matter what you struggle with
At least struggle though, don't just give up and quit
Forget how you were born
We were all born in sin
But Christ died for your sin
You can be born again
We were all born in sin
But Christ died so that we can be born again

·         HOLD THE FUCK UP! You cannot wish the gay away. You cannot pray the gay away. You are born with your sexual orientation and that’s beyond anyone’s control! If god hated gay people so much why the fuck did he created gay people in the first place! GOD CREATED THIS FUCKED UP WORLD THAT IS FULL OF SO CALLED SIN! I’m really trying hard to hold it together here but these lyrics are just awful. You really are trying to push your religious propaganda here. Thanks to Adam and Eve we were born with sin which is the most fucked up logic ever; also Christ didn’t die for our sins because he doesn’t exist.

And I never want to act like

All gay people are the same because that's ignorant

·         Yes it is very ignorant to say that all gay people act the same. It’s like saying all black people act the same and all white people can’t dance. Everyone is not the same and to categorize everyone into that one category and say you are all the same is very ignorant and discriminatory.

But at the same time

What I won't allow you to do
Is paint this beautiful picture

·         Why can’t someone paint the picture of the life that they desire to live? I can understand if this lifestyle is harmful to other people, such as murdering and theft. Society cannot function properly if they have to constantly fear for their lives just walking down the street. Now, however this is just gay people wanting to live their peacefully with the person they love. You cannot force people to marry someone they don’t love and it isn’t fair to want someone to marry someone they don’t love. Would you marry a man? How about if I forced you to? Yes, exactly that’s the same logic you are using. It’s completely dumb!

Like we don't have people from the LGBT community out here

Running up in churches, disrupting services

·         What people of the LGBT Community are out here running into churches and disrupting services? You know there are people in the LGBT Community whom are also Christian right? Secondly, once again a Christian playing the victim card. You don’t play it well because the oppressor cannot be the oppressed.

Kissing on the pulpit

Out here attacking old ladies
Throwing crosses down and stomping em'
Violently assaulting people

·         So not only are people in the LGBT Community breaking into churches and causing havoc, but they are making out on the pulpit as well? Are they having orgies too? I’m pretty some of the sexually oppressed would’ve been very entertained by the notion of this occurring. Throwing crosses to the ground and stomping on them? How dare they insult your religion! I mean come on not the cross! Attacking old ladies and violently assaulting people? Last time I checked people in the LGBT Community were fighting for equality but not attacking people, especially old ladies. Do you have any sources? I mean I can’t take you serious throwing out bullshit like this!

So don't take my most aggressive lines that you know are to that group

And try to apply it to the friendliest
Loving gay person because that's not the case

·         What you are saying is that I should still judge someone based off something that was beyond their control? Because this is their fault how? Please explain to me how! Did you choose to be attracted to women because if you say yes and that’s what god wanted of you then you are a bigger idiot than you already making yourself out to be.

And to that struggling Christian right now

Struggling with homosexuality
Fight the good fight soldier
No matter what anybody says
We all have different desires
We all are drawn toward different sin
And my desire might not be your desire
But I have a desire that's just as strong for another sin
And I have to fight it day in and day out
And sometimes I win and sometimes I lose
Sometimes I stand and sometimes I fall
But fight the good fight
God is worth it
God bless you
No hate about it
I love you

·         No you don’t! You don’t know what love is because if you did you would understand what you are saying is complete and utter horseshit! You should not have to suppress who you are and you shouldn’t have to hide your feelings for another man/woman. It is perfectly natural and normal to have feelings for someone of the same-sex. You can love both! The only fight here is people like you telling other people how to live their lives. Let people be happy and live their lives peacefully with the person they love. Two consenting adults having consenting sex in the privacy of their own home has nothing to do with you! WHY DON’T YOU UNDERSTAND THAT? IT’S NOT FUCKING HARD!!!!!!! I really don’t understand what the big fucking deal is about letting gay people be happy and be gay.

The worst arguments for homophobia

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