We respond to an article we found on the internet about a woman falling in love with an atheist and the awful advice she is about to receive.
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I decided to respond to an article that I found on the internet. A lady is seeking help because she is falling in love with (gasp!) an atheist! Someone get the holy water out, please get in a circle jerk (I mean) a pray circle and pray that she doesn’t fall in love with this defiant deviant monster! She needs Jesus and only Jesus in her life!
Let’s start with who a Christian is.
[Let’s see, from what this article is going to go into great deal of depth about. A Christian is someone who hates other people that aren’t Christians and are very arrogant when it comes to dating.]
A Christian is a person who is now one with Christ. A Christian has been rescued by Jesus out of the darkness of sin and has been brought into His marvelous light—transformed from the inside out. A Christian has the spirit of Christ living inside of them! A Christian is someone whose entire identity has been refashioned around Christ. Christ is their life. Christ is the reason they are now accepted and beloved by God the Father.
[How are you one with Christ? Can’t someone be one with themselves and fully accept and understand their strengths and flaws? I mean you don’t need ‘God’ to help you discover that shit! Secondly, Christ living inside of you, that sounds incredibly creepy! Who is living inside of me? Is it Jesus Christ, the holy ghosts, ‘God’? I really don’t understand how any of this makes me a Christian ‘person’.]
An atheist, on the other hand, denies that God even exists. An atheist is a God-hater, just as you and I were until God graciously opened our “eyes” to our need to be forgiven and cleansed of our sin, to be reconciled to our Creator, and to be given an “alien” righteousness so we could live with a holy God forever.
[‘God’ hater? How the fuck can you hate something you don’t believe in? In order for me to say that I hate ‘God’ I have to have some kind of belief in him and I don’t. I don’t know any atheists that say I hate ‘God’. It’s a ridiculous thing to say because you are saying that to a certain degree you believe in ‘God’ and well to be an atheists means you have no belief in any gods. Nothing last forever sweetie so instead of trying to appease some ‘mythical man’ why not make yourself happy and be with the man who you are falling in love with! Faith vs the real world, I’m fucking picking the real world!]
An atheist and a Christian are not compatible. How do I know this?
[Are you fucking kidding me? You can be compatible with someone and not share the same beliefs! What is this? The only way you can date someone is if they share your beliefs and that’s it? The atheist man you are falling in love with could be everything you want in man while the man you choose to be with is incompatible in everything but your beliefs. What do you have if ‘God’ is the only thing you can relate to with that person? This is just utterly stupid on so many levels, you date someone you are compatible with and enjoy spending time with in ways other than just getting on your knees and praying every goddamn night! Wake the fuck up please! I think when they poured that cold water on your head; the bucket fell on your head for you to say some bullshit like this. Please continue!!]
Well, years ago, the apostle Paul wrote to the Christians in Corinth, urging them not to enter into any kind of a close partnership with an unbeliever. After telling them not to be “unequally yoked with unbelievers” (picture an ox and a donkey trying to plow a straight row together . . . fail! It won’t happen—they’ll each want to do their own thing), Paul peppered them with the following questions:
[When you’re dating someone you and that person aren’t going to share the same interests! There will be things he wants to do that you find no interest in and vice versa! Example, what if you dated the atheist man and you love spending time with him. You enjoy activities that you may not have thought you would and his personality compliments yours. You are happy and he supports your religious views. This does not mean you need to dump him like trash because he does not believe in ‘God’. Now take the same situation and apply a religious man and the only thing you have in common with him is praying and religion, that’s going to be one boring ass relationship because you can’t stand him and he is very incompatible to you. Why on fucking earth would you want that for yourself? We atheists are not going out there telling you Christians you need to not believe in ‘God’ and you are stupid! We only respond in defense that’s it! Your Christian ignorance is killing me!]
“What partnership has righteousness with lawlessness?
[You can have a relationship with someone and that person is everything you’d want and not share religious views. It’s not a lawless relationship because you and your partner set the guidelines in your relationship. What do you think that we atheists just want to have mass orgies and rebel against the law?]
“What fellowship has light with darkness?
[I take great offense to this statement. You are referring to atheists as darkness, like we are these evil people trying to turn you Christians away from your ‘God’. We don’t give a flying fuck about your religion or ‘God’. Now, if your partner wants to tell you to stop believing in ‘God’ then yes you can dump that person. However, if this person respects your religion but chooses not to participate, that’s enough to keep him in your life. You share so much more in common with him that religion shouldn’t be the only reason to keep you two apart, especially if he respects that part of your life. You should be able to respect him.]
“What accord has Christ with Belial (Satan)?
[God and Satan really fucked up Job life! I guess that’s something we forget about. How about Satan being God’s favorite angel? If it weren’t for Satan we’d all be stupid! Well, incredibly naïve and not know right from wrong.]
“What portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?
[You can like sports, cars, movies, knitting etc. I dated someone who believed in ‘God’ and I didn’t. But we had so much in common that the religious views didn’t matter. That can happen here!!!!!!!!]
“What agreement has the temple of God with idols?
[This has nothing to do with anything. The question is if she should date an atheist that she is falling in love with. The answer is yes! You won’t share everything in common with a person and if you find someone that is willing to care for you and accept you for your strengths and flaws that is a person surely worthy of your time. Now he doesn’t believe in ‘God’ so the fuck what! You want someone that’s going to treat you the way you want to be treated and care for you as the person you are, no ‘God’ can do that and dating someone for lack of belief is stupid!!!]
“For we are the temple of the living God; as God said,
“‘I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty'” (2 Cor. 6:14–18).
[I have a question for you ‘God’. Why don’t you just reveal yourself to the world? Please end this long and tiring debate whether you exist or not. I mean you have one job and you are failing every single day.]
One way we can apply this to our lives today is that we should not marry (and therefore we should not date or long to date) someone who is not wholeheartedly pursuing and delighting in God. King Solomon made this mistake, and we’re told in 1 Kings 11:4 that, “His wives turned his heart after other gods; and his heart was not loyal to the LORD his God.”
[Your relationship with your partner is real! You can see him, you can touch him and you can communicate to him. ‘God’ you can’t do any of these things, because he’s hiding (apparently) from you (he has good reasons to hide but I won’t get into that). Enough joking around, if you love someone you’ll respect their religious beliefs like you should their lack of beliefs, religion shouldn’t be the only reason you date anyone. There’s more to a relationship than praying every fucking night! Make decisions about your relationship like the goddamn adult that you are!]
You will have to choose between God and this man. You can’t have both. James warns
[You hear this ladies and gentlemen. ‘God’ is the only man you need in your life, and you can’t choose both. How sad is it that you can’t choose the man you love or care about because you can only choose one and that’s ‘God’. What’s even more sad is when some people come to the realization that ‘God’ may not even exist and will let the one they love drift into the arms of another.]
“His wives turned his heart after other gods; and his heart was not loyal to the LORD his God.”
[His heart was never with ‘God’ in the first place. I’m pretty sure when you apply simple logic and understanding, you’ll see why this statement is just a huge contradiction and also very hypocritical at that. One verse you say, one man and one woman, in this one line however. Solomon has several wives and ‘God’ was cool with that. I’ll be damn if I let those gays be happy though! Secondly, if he really did love ‘God’ he would – to be honest I don’t care. Solomon made the choice to live his life happily and well that’s a sin because you can’t be a Christian and be happy!]
“You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God” (James 4:4).
[Enmity is the state or feeling of being actively opposed or hostile to someone or something. Okay, now that we’ve gotten that out of the way. How in the fuck would you be an enemy of ‘God’ if you are friends with people who don’t share your religious? Does this mean that ‘God’ only wants you to talk to those who are closed-minded like yourself? Wow! Just fucking wow! I’m at a loss for words here. I can’t believe what I’ve just read. We are no longer talking about loving an atheist man; we are calling everyone whom isn’t a part of your religion adulterous! Wow, I feel bad for this woman because you are not only telling her not to date someone she loves, but to actively stick her nose up at everyone who doesn’t share her religious views. God even condones this which is what makes it worse!]
Let me be clear about this, though. If you choose God over this man, God will not love you any more than He already does. It won’t earn you extra points with God. If you truly trust in Christ Jesus as both your Savior and your Lord, you are already His 100% dearly loved child.
[This one isn’t sitting right with me either. It’s like that controlling dad who tells you that you can’t have a boyfriend just love and honor me only. Clearly you can love ‘God’ with all your heart and worship him day and night. The real issue is that you are using ‘God’ as an excuse to keep yourself from feeling what you feel for someone else. It’s okay to fall for someone who doesn’t share your beliefs; you two are adults and dictate who happens in your relationship. I’m so worried for this woman because you are filling her head with complete and utter bullshit! You should be with the man who will love you and cherish you just like how you want to love and cherish him. Love is blind and it doesn’t take ‘God’ or rocket science to figure that shit out! Another point I want to make is that ‘God’ is just an asshole, why would you want your children to love only you? It’s like you don’t want them to think and live for themselves, you control every aspect of that person’s life, no wonder some religious individuals hate seeing others happy. With the rules your ‘God’ enforces I wouldn’t be happy either.]
Does that mean that you have the freedom to date this man? No way! Besides, why would you want to, when Christ has revealed Himself to you as the greatest treasure there is—both in this life and for the life to come?
[YES!!! She does have the freedom to date this man! The relationship she will have with this man is going to be more real than her relationship with ‘God’. She can see him, touch him, talk to him and get a proper response from him. You can’t have a relationship with an invisible person it’s not possible! You deserve to have happiness in your life and if ‘God’ hates it, oh well there are far worse things in the world ‘God’ should hate besides this relationship. It’s like ‘God’s’ Opinion is your opinion and not his own. How do you know that ‘God’ hates this? Did he personally tell you this or did you just write this to make this poor woman feel bad about being in love with someone who isn’t as religious as she is?]
I get it that you have strong feelings toward this man. I’ve been where you are. And if you’re anything like me, my guess is that what you’re feeling isn’t true love, but something closer to romantic desire . . . and even maybe lust. I encourage you to:
[Hold the fuck up! How do you know that what she feels for this man is lust? Secondly, how dare you tell her to not pursue a relationship with someone she cares about? What because he’s an atheist he can’t feel love and he’s an adulterer because he doesn’t believe in your ‘God’? I know you’ve said some fucked up shit in this article but it’s just getting way out of hand and way out of line. You date the person you care about and have a foundation to build a loving stable relationship with. You don’t date someone because the only thing you have in common is getting down on your knees and praying to ‘God’ every night. It’s like you want her to make all the wrong choices and using ‘God’ as a justifiable reason for your bullshit!]
Explore whether you truly have been born again, and whether Jesus Christ really is both your Savior and your Lord (He can’t be one without being the other!).
Tell an older, godly woman about your struggle. Be completely honest with her, and ask her to help hold you accountable.
[How about getting advice from people who aren’t using a 2,000 year old book as a guide for their life? Or how about talking to someone who knows that there’s more to a relationship than religious views?]
Break off your relationship with this guy. Stop dancing with him. Don’t text him. Run!
[Why would she break it off with him? She is falling in love with this guy and she deserves to be happy! Just because you aren’t happy doesn’t mean that she needs to follow in your footsteps. I can’t believe your advice is to run! When you are dating someone you have to show the same respect they are showing to you, just because you don’t share similar religious views doesn’t mean you can’t be with this man. I swear this is so idiotic!]
Pursue Jesus through His Word. Get to know Him. Learn to enjoy Him the way He delights in you.
[You can’t pursue or get to know someone who is invisible, it’s impossible! How about she pursues the man she’s falling in love with? That relationship is more real than this bullshit you keep trying to tell her!]
Praying for you
[I pray that you find happiness and stop blocking others from finding it.]
Dear woman falling in love with an atheist.
You should proceed to getting to know this man. He may not share your religious views, but you’ll learn that there will be many things you two won’t agree on. The key to a healthy relationship is communication, tackling issue together as adults and most importantly respecting each other. This man may respect everything about you and wants to make you happy, you should do the same. It’s not hard being adults and finding other things that you two enjoy, like dancing for example. Religion shouldn’t be the only reason you date anyone and if it is, you are a shallow person because you’re about to throw away someone who may potentially be the love of your life.